Thoughts / Wedding

Secret Vows

So, despite my career choice and penchant for blogging, I’m a pretty private person. As I’ve gotten older I find myself wanting to be in crowds less and less, and after I play a show I crave absolute silence. When Napkin and I met up with Mr. Officiant for the first time and took the Myer’s-Brigg’s test (you can read my post on that HERE) I scored pretty high on the introverted side of things. And anyone who knows him will not be surprised to hear that Napkin is SUPER OMEGA INTROVERTED.

When it came time to start thinking about our vows, we were really stumped. It’s a pretty popular choice to write your own these days, and it’s such a sweet notion that both of us sat around ringing our hands trying to figure out what we would say. But secretly, I was dreading it. I was really happy with the vows that were given to us by Mr. Officiant; they were short and sweet. But I didn’t say anything.

On our way to the beach, Napkin and I got to talking about wedding stuff. I carefully raised the subject of our vows, mentioning my hesitation to do our own. “I like the idea of a personal touch,” I said, “But I’m worried I will be embarrassed or something.” We ended up being on the same page. #meanttobe.jpg So then I started brain storming!


So here’s what we are going to do:

Napkin and I are going to exchange traditional vows at our ceremony and then after all the partying is over and we are finally alone together we are going to give each other letters. This way, we will have our personal promises to each other but they’ll be secret and safe and just for he and I. I hear so often that your wedding day is so busy and jam-packed-full of events and people and celebrations that you forget some of the quieter moments…. I feel like this is a great way to end our special day.

What do you think?


2 thoughts on “Secret Vows

  1. I love the idea of the letters. I think we are going to write our own vows. Just because we wanted something different from the traditional ones. I already warned him that I will be sobbing through the entire thing but I’ll promise to have them written down so he can read them afterwards! 8)

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